Men at risk

Most dangerous is the temptation

That doth goad us to sin

In loving virtue.

— Shakespeare

Let's face it, men are weak and ruled by their loins instead of their brains. Women know this, and exploit it, therefore putting the men at great risk. Yes, men are at risk constantly, even though they did not usually talk about it readily or freely, until now when more are speaking out.

As many media reports say, more men are coming forward and reporting the perils that they've been subjected to by women, young girls, and even children. Historically it's been the domain of women as they complain about the advantages that men take with them, but now, the men have their say.

This whole sexual harassment thing was concocted by women, convicting many guilty men, but condemning many innocent men too.

"Be careful when you kill your demons, for you will kill your angels too."

But recently, more men are coming forward to report what risks they are subjected to from females. Just recently the Sunday Observer carried stories about male teachers who were harassed and harangued by young female students, children in uniform, who pursued and pressured them with their sexual advances.

We often hear of adults making sexual advances and even completing the act, rarely do we hear of men who are at risk because of these young children. There are many risk factors too that men are subjected to, and we'll see some of them right after these responses to what I had to say about 'The right time'.

Hi Tony,

The right time to get married is when the couple is in love and after being engaged for at least six months. A little money in reserve is a must, and at least three months' salary in the bank is ideal. The man should be at least 21 years old. At that age he does not need his parents' permission and should have sown his wild oats by that time. Some couples throw caution to the wind and get married on just love alone. For them there is no right time.

Gordon

Teerob,

There really is no ideal right time, as each person has to take their own path. Some people marry young and it works, while others wait until the 'right time' after a long engagement and it flops. It depends on the individuals and, of course, the luck of the draw, for sometimes you just get a bad hand and nothing can fix it. What's important is making the choice yourself, and not being forced or influenced by others. It'll be your right time, chosen by you.

Susan

A few days ago the Sunday Observer carried a few articles dealing with sex offences. One highlighted the sex offences crisis in some rural communities, with one lawyer calling for those communities to be named and shamed.

The other dealt with the situations of female teachers being stalked by menacing boys, and the third was titled, "The children who will send men to prison." We've all heard the term 'Jail bait'. In effect, men at risk.

It's always been highlighted when older men prey on young girls, but rarely do we hear when it's the other way around. The results can be devastating for the men; one, if he actually succumbs to the advances of the young girl, and two, even if he doesn't, he's in trouble, for she can claim that he did, and it'll be difficult to prove otherwise.

Even if proven innocent, that dark cloud will hang over his head forever, and he'll be known as the child molester who got off the charge because of a technicality or a slick lawyer.

But men have been sent to prison for falling prey to the wiles of young girls, and ironically also for resisting the advances, but still found guilty, because the court took the young accuser's word over his.

"Guilty as charged, with no explanation, she's your student."

In the article, the male teacher chronicled how the young students pursued him relentlessly, even showing up at his home demanding satisfaction. What's worse is that he was in a foreign land, so he dreaded the prospect of serving time in a foreign prison for a crime he did not commit.

Fortunately, he reported the matter to the school authorities and the situation was squashed, even though the girls didn't give up their quest for a while after — that's how relentless they were. Other men were not so lucky, and ended up in prison for a crime they did not commit.

The risk is real, and the risk is great, and our courts are filled with cases of rape, real or concocted, putting many men — young and old — at risk. Older women do it too, as they use the act of sex to destroy men. In some cases it's a situation of 'Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned,' as the man perhaps had sex with her and then dropped her like a hot potato.

"Say wah, him just nyam and scram so?...me and him inna police station and courthouse."

Feeling left and abandoned, she cries rape, and the man has hell to prove otherwise. Some may say that he put himself in that situation, but as a wise man once said, "There's always a risk involved when you have sex."

This has caught many men here and abroad, and the news stories are usually of wealthy athletes, entertainers, stars, accused of rape long after the act was deemed to have occurred, sometimes decades after.

Naturally, the accused were all very wealthy men. What a bizarre and convenient coincidence that not even one of the men accused was poor with nothing to offer.

Men at risk have so much to lose, as they risk losing a lot of money and assets, their freedom, and, of course, their reputation. All that the woman or girl has to do is to accuse, then it's game over, with the man being most at risk, and losing.

That's why it has been proposed by some lawmakers that women, young girls, and even children who falsely accuse men of sexual advances, harassment or rape, should be charged and punished severely.

It goes beyond mischief, but should be classed as a serious crime, as men can be destroyed permanently by these accusations. As one woman told a man, "They don't even have to find you guilty, all I have to do is cry rape and you're done."

Even in prison, sex offenders and child molesters are treated as scum, relegated to the lowest echelon of prison society, so can you just imagine an innocent man subjected to that after being falsely accused?

Mark you, many are guilty, but many are innocent, all are at risk. And therein lies the problem, for how do you discern the innocent from the guilty, and how does a man minimise his risk factor?

Some will advise, "Do not put yourself in a position of risk." But how do you do that? As I pointed out earlier, many men are weak, gullible, vulnerable, easily led by the promise of pu.. pu.., and females are clever as they exploit those traits.

Even very young girls know this, and will entice, coerce, seduce the man until he gives in. Lolita is real, and weak men are also real. It takes a strong man to resist, and even parson jump from pulpit to pew to enjoy prurient pleasures of pubescent punany. We see it in the media with religious regularity.

But even if the man resists, echoing the famous biblical words of, "Get thee behind me Satan," he still has to prove his innocence. The answer is to stay as far away as you can from the potential risk. In the same way that you wouldn't walk into traffic, or not don a life jacket when in a small boat at sea, it's the same way that you should avoid potential danger.

Do not be alone with any of those young students, even in a big classroom, but walk out as she enters. Do not touch or hug them, even playfully or innocently, and do not offer any special favours or promise to meet them anywhere that is not public domain.

One guy said, "If I'm even in an elevator and a young girl enters, I leave immediately?" That's how great the risk is.

I remember one of my karate instructors used to walk home this young female student who lived next door to our training dojo. Well, he had to stop, for the young 15-year-old girl started to put argument to him.

It happens in the workplace too, when female bosses take set on young employees, putting them at risk of losing their jobs or being charged for sexual harassment if they rebuff the advances.

They may say that it's a man's world and maybe it used to be, but what is certain is that it's a world full of great risks for men.

More time.

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Footnote: Our Reggae Girlz are doing us proud in the Women's World Cup now being played down under. We drew nil-all with the mighty France, beat Panama, and drew nil-all with Brazil to take a place in the knockout stage. Women's football overall has come a very long way, with the standard of play increasing hugely. Watching these women/girls from different countries play is a joy, as their skill level rivals and often surpasses that of the men. What's even more remarkable is that our team has qualified for consecutive world cups, and we haven't even got a consistent viable domestic league. I remember when coach Charlie Edwards led his team, Barbican, to numerous consecutive titles without losing a single match for years, but he gave up due to lack of support and frustration. We should bask in the glory of our Girlz, but also plan for the future.

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